So where's the line? Where's the line between being affirmative and lovingly detached and being made a fool of in the eyes of people who know you?
There is no line. You are affirmitive and loving because it's the right thing to do. Snake on the brain --- worrying about what other people think. How much control do you have over that? That is a co-dependent tendency, lot's of us here are guilty of that. This is where the "Strength and Honor" mantra kicks in. Press on, keep fighting for what you believe in. When I was totally beat up, I would hit my chest with my fist and say out loud, "I can handle it." I knew nobody else could do it for me. I had lots of help here but the work was all mine. Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
