LostNLife,
I hate to have to say this but welcome to our forum. It's not an easy road. I must say that it sounds like your H is going through all the typical WS syndromes. I think you should def look in piecing for some advice but do stick around here for a while. Hope we can help. Stay strong, stay positive, and do some GALing activities for yourself. It so helps to keep your emotions under control. Good luck and as Michele says, if you want your marriage to change, you have to change. But remember that doesn't mean doing all the work on your part and going above and beyond in pursuit mode. I think that is one of my mistakes when H and I were trying to work things out. Good luck and we're here to offer advice if needed.