New to group--totally lost

[PortlandDad]

Meli,
It's normal to have feelings of hopelessness, believe me. All LBS feel that way, especially at first. Yesterday was a good day for you, your H, and your kids. Chalk that up as a WIN and put it behind you. Focus on today and putting another one in the WIN column. Focus on you and your family. Endless analysis and speculation about what your H is feeling or what he might or might not do is not getting you closer to your goal, nor is it improving your life. Keep working on you! Keep your PMA and GAL activites going.

One thing to remember: DBing doesn't guarantee that you will save your M. You may do all the things, and go through all the steps and your M may still end in D. That is the cold, hard truth. But, and this is a huge, huge BUT, if you have truly been DBing, you stand your best chance to save your M. Regardless of the final outcome though, your life will be better, and your relationship with your kids will be better whether or not you reconcile.

Keep your chin up today! Remember what you've read here on the boards and what your DB coach told you. Don't over-analyze things. If you need to vent all that negativity and doubt, do it here and then toss it out. Today is about you!