WAW New life with OM #2

[ppenton]

SP, I agree and have been following you sitch closely, my W is not nearly as mean as yours is right now. My W likes to hang out with divorce men and women but have no idea why nor do I care. Yes, being superficial has crossed my mind but it's not me nor would I ever want to be like that and I don't think LBSs would go down that path.

I have not been telling W everything I do. If she asks me what I'm doing for the weekend or something, I tell her I'm going out or I may tell her something specific if I want to. We hardly see each other unless we are at a kid's sporting event or she stops by the house after I get home from work, which is very unusual for her since she moved out. She doesn't spend much time at our house even though the kids are there. I only call her if its about the kids or finances and I don't always answer the phone when she calls me.

My 180s (so far) have been to be more assertive and confident which has been working for me at my job, as my boss has been giving me more responsibilities and opportunities to run meetings, project and demos. Another, not so much a 180 is to talk with the kids more, I always was around for the kids but now I have them so much more of the time that I get to interact with them a lot more Still trying to figure out what other 180s to do as I always liked myself the way I am and my W used to love who I am, so I'll keep going along and show my kids that I can make it with or without W.

Also, I know to keep patient and keep living which I am doing. Many people who know what I'm going through, say how great I have been doing, so I must be doing something right. Doesn't always feel right in regards to my M but it feels right for me. I have made new friends and re-connected with some old ones and starting to enjoy life again. Praying has helped me get through rough spots during the day as has reading and posting to this board. Thanks!