I hope you are well and thanks for responding. My 6 year old son is becoming really affected by the arguments, it has now got to a point where he thinks we are going to row even when we come within 10 feet of each other. The thing he says is "daddy, please don't argue with mummy", and the trauma that causes to me is so intense and upsetting. My wife thinks I am using him to get sympathy for me as I am always cuddling him when I can and my daughter as I have no-one to cuddle except my children. As much as I agree with you all in regard to moving out, I cannot have this pressure applied to the children. As puppy mentioned in a previous post, my wife is using the children when we are arguing as tool to get me to back down. The latest one is the marital bed, I have slept in there for a week now, she complains her having to sleep in my sons bedroom and says we should take turns. She states "if you truly love me, would a MAN allow his wife to sleep in her sons bedroom, we should take turns". I cannot work out what is attempting to do, but it is either a test or she is so confused she does not know what she is saying.
I have to have some space as well, she says being apart will not make one bit of difference to our relationship. I have to give my children some peace and serenity as the atmosphere in the house is unbearable. I know I should not be doing this but I am pushing her further away as stated in my previous post. Are there any strategies I can use during our seperation?
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
