My wife and I had a discusssion this morning. She re-iterated she did not love me anymore in the way a wife should, but she sort of still loved me. Over the last ten weeks things have deteriorated in that my wife then would have been quite happy to have accompanied me to dinner dances or to a function, hell, she even suggested we could take family holidays together, we even used to kiss goodnight. Unfortunately, because of things that have been said, some silly lies I have told and so-called 'other things' my wife has found out about (these are not big lies, just I told her I was working, but I was playing golf), she feels the trust, lack of communication and respect has gone and so is the love. She re-iterated there is no-one else, but I would expect her to say that anyway.
I am moving out in two weeks for 3 months, I am then moving back to the house for another 2.5 months where she is moving with the children to her parents house. In this time she said I could try and find rental accomodation until the end of November when the finance is sorted out. She blames me totally for the sitch and says she requires un-conditional love and respect.
I am now at my wits end because no DR'ing has worked for me as she is so focused on divorce, I have never seen her this determined, she has not wavered at all. My question is - is there anything I can do to try and turn this around, or do I have to acknowledge it is over? I desperately want to reconcile, and any strategies I try when I am away cannot include going dark as she cites no communication and neglect as two of the reasons we are divorcing.
PLEASE PLEASE help
Last edited by markhaving probs; 04/01/0911:10 AM.
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years