You have shared custody, and she won't be able to move with the kids without your approval (either she gives up and leaves you the full custody or fight with you to get herself full custody in order to take the kids along). I had done with one year shared custody before STBX moved to USA. He also "invited" me to move to USA and continue our separation there and thus "maintaining the shared custody". But it was too ideal for him : OW (now bigamous wife) lives with him; his abandoned wife (me) handy to take care of the children and render his visitation easy. No, I said no. Now I have full custody with the kids in France.
Your divorce just happedned so fast there's no time to brew any complications yet.
If you ex wants to move to another state, are you ready to take the three young kids with you all the time?Are you ready to let her take them with her and do a lot of travel for each visitation? It sucks. We think we can do whether we please when we are divorced - that's true only when there are no children involved. My STBX moved to USA and climbs up his career ladder when I take care of our two daughters all the time which made me difficult to find a good job. Good job offers good salary and this demand long working hours/devotion and travel. I cannot make it. I have to chauffer the kids all the time and I have to cook, clean, take care of the household, yard, pool..... all on my own. That's why I can only work 70% and I just make a very little salary.
Somehow when my daughters fight with me and not happy when asked to help with some housework - I felt so unfair to be a single parent and house the burden all on my shoulder and no one is happy.
I hope you can find a compromise.
Have a nice day!
Last edited by F_KITTY; 04/01/0906:38 AM.
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