OM: So, a thought I've had recently is to call the OM and tell him to back off from my W. But, I was thinking that would certainly alienate W even further as I would be 'controlling' and she would be even more determined to seek this alternate fantasy life to spite me, or in spite of me.
I write my thought here probably to let the idea go so that I don't act on it.
What is the DBing thing to do when your WAW is waiting for a fantasy OM (WAH) to become available for her to start seriously dating?
I expect that their R would burn out as quickly as it started, and I'd rather not burn my bridges. I'm also thinking that once it all plays out, IF she were to show regret plus show interest in returning, I would probably be in a whole new position for me and may not be interested in her any longer. (Given what I've read here that it may take months if not years to play out, wouldn't the damage to my S6 already be mostly done? -- meaning I wouldn't have the 'family' reason to consider making it work again.)
It's crazy some of the stuff I hear from her friends about how she is absolutely lusting after this movie-star good looking guy who is not really even available yet, but shows interest in her. I just don't know who my W is right now - it's like watching someone on drugs for weeks and weeks.
Son: My son is starting to act out at school a bit. I'm wondering if I should seek individual counseling for S6, not to mention for myself for discovery of any issues I may have that I'm not aware of or addressing yet, such as communication skills or control issues - if I really do as W has suggested. I don't want to be in denial and I want to work on me, regardless of what W decides to do to fix the rest of her life. I'm sure my W would freak if she found out I took my S6 to an IC.
