Not to dash your hopes, but don't get to excited about them not working together. If they are hot and heavy for each other....it will have to run its course until the excitement fades out.

Let me try to explain something about a statement you made about loving GAL and putting on a happy face. Not sure exactly what you mean by "lovingly" GAL, maybe you can expound a bit more on that. GAL is for you to become more interesting b/c you are out of that house getting involved with people, making new friends, finding hobbies you enjoy, just plain having fun again. It also shows your H that you are not sitting at home pinning away for him. The point is for you to grow as a person and become more well rounded and interested.......plus it has a way of getting his attention if you are consistent. I don't know what you mean by lovingly. You don't want to get a life that would be centered around anything vindictive or something of that nature b/c you would only be hurting yourself. But, this is very important.......GAL is not to be center around him....in case that was what you meant by "lovingly". Do things to make yourself feel good. As you said, you need to get pumped up. Get a manicure or do something you don't usually do that would be fun.

As far as putting on a happy face, the point there is to show him that you are doing just fine.......not that you are happy with the stitch! You must be careful not to come across as "fake" b/c he knows you well and will see through that and it will turn him off....big time. So, you are "happy" in who you are and that you have decided that you will be fine with or without him b/c you are going to have a life!! That is why you must do things to keep a positive mental attitude about YOU........YOU.......YOU. Not obsessing about him or the M, but you. You have to be sold on yourself and you have to be like it was said before......act as if you are the greatest woman on earth and any man would be a fool to let you slip through his fingers. If you believe that, then you just might sell him on that belief, also. That is why we preach over and over that all of this must be for you and for the rest of your life......IT IS NOT A GIMMICK TO WIN BACK YOUR HUSBAND! If you think that and act that.....it will not last. So many people come back after the S returned home and they thought everything was fine. Guess what they say? They stopped with the changes. You know why? B/c it wasn't for them and it wasn't for the rest of their life. They did it only to win their spouse back. So.....once again, they find themselves back here.

The sooner you drop the rope and stop obsessing over him and OW, the better off you will be and the sooner the excitement of the A will wear off and he will start noticing what he left at home. But, you must convince yourself, I can't do it for you.....okay?

Take care,
Sandi

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!