Very well played! I'm cheering here for you! You handled the situation very well. I'm very happy that you have a DB coach; keep listening and applying your DB principles like you did tonight.
Be prepared for the ups and downs. Tonight seemed like an up to me, but there are going to be those downer days, too. Take them one at a time. Another thing, try not to think about him so much. This part is the hardest, I know. You want to read and analyze every word, every gesture, every pregnant pause in the conversation for hidden meaning about what he is thinking. Except to gauge whether or not your 180s are having the effect you want, there isn't much value in obsessing about his thoughts.
It does sound like he is giving voice to some of his doubts. If it were me, wild dogs wouldn't be able to keep me from seeing my kids, so that is something that I am sure he is thinking about. Your non-confrontational, caring, and level-headed conversation about being in the kids' life and your home was sure to give him more doubts about what he is doing.
He sounds scared, unsure of himself and his decision, and is probably trying to make sense of it all for himself. If he is not on his medication, returning to the land of the rational might be a little harder, but it seems to me that time spend with his kids is one of the strongest motivators for making the WAS question their decisions.
You are doing great! Keep it up!
Me40 WAW37 M18 T20 S18,14 D13 EA Bomb 6/08 Sep 11/20/08 Ret 08/09 Sep/Filed 11/09
