I had an interesting evening. H lives in the next town over, but doesn't have a car. Funny how not having a license will take that freedom away. Anyway, our two youngest kids had their parent/teacher conferences tonight. He was out with his mother this afternoon and had her drop him off at my house around 2:30. The kids didn't know he was going to be here so when they got off the bus they were thrilled. The afternoon went well in my opinion. I was able to show him all of the home improvements I've done, like retiling the bathroom floor, which is a total 180. Normally I would have asked him to do them and left them there until he took care of it. I told him that my financial aid for school came through and it's all paid for. The kids didn't know he was going to be here, so they were thrilled when he got off the bus. Overall I'd say it was a good day.
When I got home he logged onto YIM. I didn't say anything since I'm letting him initiate conversations now. Well he did for the first time in I don't know how long. He said that he didn't think it was good for the kids to have him here because it gave them the false sense that he would be coming back. I told him that they were just glad to have him around and didn't mention anything about him coming home. Then he said he felt uncomfortable and out of place. So I told him that he was always welcome in my home as he is their father. Then he said that he had to go because he wasn't having a good night and he'd talk to me later.
So, does this mean that being here affected him in the sense that it made him think about what he was leaving? I have no idea how to read this at all. He never initiates a conversation. The DB coach I spoke with said that when he's uncomfortable it usually means that he's doubting his decision. Do you think that could be the case here? Am I on the right track? What else can I do to keep him thinking?
