Seperated But Living Together

[AJM]

Meant to mention: some people have referred to the process of building trust as being like trying to feed a wild squirrel from the palm of your hand. I think squirrels may be easier and act more thankful early on. But you get the point :0)

I think you need to focus on you and your changes and not focus on showing him. He'll notice and you'll have to trust that's the case. If you try to show him, it will come across as fake. If you make the changes you want to see, he'll notice. Certainly not in a timeframe comfortable to you, but he will. He'll learn to trust those changes and he'll learn that you make those changes because you care about him. You love him and what crazy bastard wouldn't want the love of a good woman? Remember that you've come far. You have. Don't stop on the journey. Fix you. Trust me that he'll notice. Trust me that you'll be better for it. Trust me that your confidence will return and nothing, I mean NOTHING is more attractive than confidence. Believe me.

Low self-esteem is a real turn off for men and women. It is.

Be the woman you've wanted to be. Now you have that freedom, the permission (you can give yourself that permission) and the time, you should take advantage of it. Be you. Be free.

Don't worry what he'll think. He'll notice. More importantly, you'll be glad you did and you'll be happy.

AJ