Well, you know that she took the risk and now has to live with the consequences. M is not a game, R are not a game. On the other hand, I am not sure what you are suggesting about your W and BFF but could it be that she is finding herself too? My BFM discovered himself after his M broke up. Fun ny thing is that his exw tried the same thing out for awhile too. Very weird.
Keep us informed about everyone's health at this point - sounds like a lot is going on. How are you managing?