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[Thinker]

I can only think "Back off and give her the space she is asking for".

If you force yourself up there, then she is going to resent it the whole time.

if you are up there and not acting like you would normally, then the kids are going to be upset.

Unless your W is desperate to have you working on the house, then it is not a chance for you to shine. In fact, working the whole time and then leaving to go to a hotel to hand out alone seems like a way for her (and your kids) to see you as a doormat -- sorry for the 2x4.

Is there some way you can take the week off and go do something fun for yourself?

Just my opinion, not knowing that much about the details of your sitch.