I've always felt certain that with my H there would never be any 'aha' or 'light bulb' moment and we would have the fairy tale type moment. H had the light switch moment when he flipped out, but after that he spent a lot of months/years easing out of 'our' life. Now it feels he easing back into it. That's ok with me. Slow and steady wins the race. I just wish I knew where the finish line is!

So NNP, spill. !! ;\)

Live your life while you are still living.
Riding the trail less traveled.