In Limbo!?

[Hurtinky]

Thank you all for the advice and support. This was a difficult weekend! Lots of little stuff that is impacting the whole family. I am so confused by my feelings. I know deep down that him saying he has wasted 30 years is his OWN HUGE problem! But it is still soooooo sad to me when I think of all the memories we have with our kids. We all always did everything together. I am trying to work on me. My IC sessions have helped a lot. I just seem to keep getting bogged down by thinking about what I coulda/shoulda done different. Saw him at a lunch with the kids yesterday and he said he has to get out of his parents house...they are driving him nuts!!! DUH!! But I am so scared financially of how we can pull off having two households going at the same time. And my 17 year old says he has promised her that we can stay in the only house she has ever lived in until she graduates from high school. This seems so unfair for our whole family. He holds all of the cards. He wants out. STUPID MID LIFE CRISIS BULL!! And the whole family. Including my upset pregnant daughter in law has to deal with it. I am continuing the DBing. No R or M talk. Trying to do 180's. A true 180 for me would be to really be on the band wagon for him to get his own place, but for some reason I just don't feel in my heart like I can do that. I know of a condo he may be able to rent for a very reasonable amount in a very nice part of town( a co-workers daughter is renting it out) but don't know if I should tell him about it or let him find something in a shady part of town for the same price!!! Like I said to help him secure this would be probably the biggest 180 I could do that would absolutely shock him. He is sure I will stand in the way however I can to keep him from being happy!!! I will go buy Mars and Venus book tomorrow. Sounds like it would be helpful on another level!