Seperated But Living Together

[2gthrButApart]

Thanks AJ,

Funny story, my H went to a strip club for his friend's bachelor party and said he doesn't understand why guys like it so much said it's just not "his thing", and he won't be returning.

I'm trying to figure out how I can do all of the things from my above post, w/o being to agressive, and pursuing. Can I lay on his chest out of nowhere? I've been lightly rubbing his face or his arm, I began giving him a good night kiss on the forehead or on his arm once in a while, we've gone almost 6 months w/ no goodnight kisses at all.

How can I treat him the way I realy want to treat him, w/o coming off as a pusuer?

What are the do's and don'ts now that he's inching towards me?

I'm anxious to see how he greets me when he gets home on sunday. I'm expecting a kiss on the cheek, b/c I'm expecting him to be a lil' distant now that he's had some time to think, I'm sure he will be even more confused. But I'll welcome a kiss on the lips with "open arms" ;), I just don't want to scare him away.

I bought the girls some arts and crafts items and they're making him posters that say welcome home, and we missed you things like that, w/ drawings, they want to blow up a couple of balloons and tape them up around the house, and I'm making his favorite meal and baking a cake. To show him there are no resentful or hard feelings about his trip this time around, I'm sure he's expecting my usually sarcastic remarks and insecure comments about his trip, but I will bite my lip, tongue, poke myself with a pen, whatever needs to be done to be respectful, and not backslide. I've come too far in my eyes, in the past 3 months, to let it completely go now. Back in Oct, Nov, Dec I was dying for just a mere touch, and now the touches are sincere, not a "show" in front of family. I have to prove I am different.

Do you think what I have set up for sunday is too much? (The meal and the cake?) We used to do that 5 yrs ago, when he 1st began visiting his dad, and over the past couple of yrs it has died down, the more my angry feelings built up.

Is this Ok DBing??