I've been thinking... ever since I read your post this afternoon...
By disrespected, I'm assuming you mean the "dress" incident and the "where ya been?" incident at the fundraiser... (?) I'm not sure how well I explained it, as I can't read it while typing here, but, I reviewed the dress incident with my friend. She didn't give a second thought to it... She thought he really didn't know it was a dress, and reminded me that he's not the type to give a conventional compliment. His comment about not being able to miss me in that dress, was probably his way of showing his notice of it. And, the "where ya been" moment, was a few comments, that she knows were a result of him trying to bid on us a vacation home for a week this summer, and I was nowhere in sight to be able to talk to about it.
NORMALLY, I would NEVER have reacted that emotionally, HOWEVER, couple those moments, with the "battle fatigue" that Sandi2 brought up, and things not progressing quickly enough for my patience level, and you get me, in tears, now desperate to settle this in my mind/heart, etc...
So, YES, he was an a$$. YES, it never would have happened had I not made a big deal of it. YES, I need to learn to let this stuff roll off.
I just haven't figured out how yet, and I'm not sure what to do about that.
I agree that I need to establish some acceptable behavior boundaries with him, though. Like I said above, this is not behavior that is common... HOWEVER, it shouldn't be uncommon either. It just shouldn't be.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
