I know exactly how you feel. It is really discouraging.
After a month of movement in an encouraging direction, and then another month of backward movement, I just had the same discussion with my W yesterday - no MC, no Retrouvaille, nothing that is going to try to "force the marriage to work at all costs" - she feels it is dead, useless, feels trapped, etc.
I even was gone for part of the weekend and got the same line - "I didn't miss you, and in fact it's easier for me when you are gone"
In my case, I am am positive that it is because she is back with OM at some level.
I'll give you the same advice I am giving myself: - It is not because of you. She has to deal with this herself - you can only focus on yourself - get back to making yourself happy and strong - let her go - back way way off - if you think you are detached and giving her space, you aren't yet.
I agree completely with the "Sigh" in your last post. I just signed mine that way too...
Take care and good luck
Sounds like we are both in pretty much the same boat.
But it is hard to detach completely since detachment is kinda one of the reasons I am where I am right now. And also since she has mentioned that she thinks we have grown even farther apart in these past few months that I have been trying to DB and detach/give her space. But when she said that I was thinking...'wtf...you were the one asking me for space or a separation, but then when you get space, you say we're growing farther apart and use that as another confirmation that we are wrong for each other?' It really feels like I live in a damned if you do,damned if you don't place right now.
And what also gets me is that she says that she knows one of her faults is that she does not like going back and fixing things regarding relationships. And I'm thinking that if you know its a fault, then I dont' understand why you won't try to change it.
Are people ever worried that in trying to detach, they get to a place where you are really, really detached. A place where you let yourself get over the other person, maybe because it's easier on yourself emotionally? I have to admit, that is one of my fears and something that I think I would regret one day.
