We dated about a year. No other women. He got cold feet a few months after we got married while on our honeymoon and cut loose after that. Wonderful, huh? He filed a few months later before deploying so that he wouldn't have to deal with anything when he got back.
Me:28, first M H: 33, second M Married: 08/08 Bomb: 10/08 H filed D and deployed: 12/08 Served: 04/09 I deploy: 07/09 Hearing date: 08/09
I've cried a lot too but it's gotten a lot better these past few months. When a tough day hits and I am emotional, it is almost harder to handle b/c I'm not used to it! That's a very good sign. It's been one of those days where my head is pounding and all I want to do is go to sleep...
Me:28, first M H: 33, second M Married: 08/08 Bomb: 10/08 H filed D and deployed: 12/08 Served: 04/09 I deploy: 07/09 Hearing date: 08/09
I never envisioned the day I would be DBing while my H is in Iraq. I am supposed to be in TX right now and deploying to meet up with H this month. My replacement just arrived here in WA to take my spot so that I could move and be with my H. I am not sure where she will go now that I am staying in WA. I am still trying to cope, accept, and move on. It's very surreal at times. I still feel a huge sense of loss at times.
I try not to sit and dwell about our sitch but I am guilty of it at times. When I notice I am having a pity party, I dis-invite myself and kick myself out of it :-). I hope I am coping and grieving in a healthy fashion.
I am still amazed my H has coped so well but it is his decision to D and I believe he is stuffing down his emotions - which will definitely bite him later. He chooses to deal with things by moving on and never really deal with them. It works for him but I see the excess baggage he has accumulated over the years.
I hope a good night sleep with rest my mind and help me re-focus.
Me:28, first M H: 33, second M Married: 08/08 Bomb: 10/08 H filed D and deployed: 12/08 Served: 04/09 I deploy: 07/09 Hearing date: 08/09
It's sp weird how one minute I'm on top of the world thinking, I can do this. Then the next I' like, what do I do?
Yup. I have finally reached a place I am holding steady most of the time. But I continue to have the highs and the lows sometimes. Enjoy the tortillas. Yummy
Me:28, first M H: 33, second M Married: 08/08 Bomb: 10/08 H filed D and deployed: 12/08 Served: 04/09 I deploy: 07/09 Hearing date: 08/09
Me too. I never thought I'd see myself in this sitch ether, none of us did. But what's that saying - It's not how hard you hit, it's hard you can get hit and keep moving forward.
I've felt the pain of death in my family, thank God I still have my parents BUT this void, this hole is H U G E and at times, I think it will never go away. But each day that goes by can only make us stronger.
Me - 39 W - 39 D - 11 D - 8 S - 5 Served - 04/14/09 Temporary Court Orders - 04/27/09
Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow.
