I feel so lost and so tired

[Thinker]

Stay Strong my Friend!

I know exactly how you feel. It is really discouraging.

After a month of movement in an encouraging direction, and then another month of backward movement, I just had the same discussion with my W yesterday - no MC, no Retrouvaille, nothing that is going to try to "force the marriage to work at all costs" - she feels it is dead, useless, feels trapped, etc.

I even was gone for part of the weekend and got the same line - "I didn't miss you, and in fact it's easier for me when you are gone"

In my case, I am am positive that it is because she is back with OM at some level.

I'll give you the same advice I am giving myself:
- It is not because of you. She has to deal with this herself
- you can only focus on yourself
- get back to making yourself happy and strong
- let her go - back way way off - if you think you are detached and giving her space, you aren't yet.


I agree completely with the "Sigh" in your last post. I just signed mine that way too...

Take care and good luck