"I think the fact that I hadn't been angry and storming about, but had instead shared my (admittedly despondent) feelings openly, and then -listened- to her responses, drove home how I was really feeling (I wasn't just spouting off in an angry huff), and also gave her the room she needed to 'bring me back' into the game with her."
Yep - authenticity. Huffing and puffing and anger are not actually authentic feelings. They are emotional displays designed to manipulate the other person. But true authenticity generally brings an authentic response...and then real change can grow from there.
GOOD JOB, Baggy....and Mrs. Baggy!
And thank you (from all of us) for sending her the sexy text. I was on pins and needles waiting to hear if you had sent one or not!
