And this is why you knew not to get into another relationship right away. You are not going to bandaid what you are going through with another relationship. You are so smart. This is so hard and painful, but something you need to get through...on your own. I think after about 8-12 months of something traumatic, it hits you harder. Up until that point you deal with getting through the day, taking care of the kids, paperwork.....now you have to deal with the emotions and the fallout of what your H chose. Just know that this is not what YOU chose. He left a marriage on feelings of "beginning love/lust", he left someone he loved and his family because of "new feelings". He will eventually realize this even if he never tells you. You both are paying for the consequence of his choice and that is where it is not fair. You will get through this, and it will get better. Lean on people when you need to. ((((Kat)))) I wish I was close to be there for you.