The lbs is so happy to have the mlcer back home, that he/she doesn't realize that the real work has begun. The mlcer is still very fragile emotionally and they will test you time and time again to see if you are being true. The guilt eats at them and they will bring up things like, if you'd rather I go, I can, and other such comments. Don't buy into them. In other words, they want to ensure that you are not going to throw all of the mlc crap back into their faces. They want to feel "safe" and know that they are "safe". It's really a very true test of the lbs to see if they can really, really reconcile or not.
I think that is by far one of the best written examples of what happens and what to expect.
You should print that up and have it somewhere to reference New. In order to heal you will end up having to talk about some of it, but you'll realize that some of those old questions you absolutely thought you needed answers to...you no longer need answered, or they just aren't important.
Forgive...do not rub his nose in it, make him earn the forgiveness, but do not hold it over him...no one wants to live like that.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
