Hey Saffie, K, whoever else said it.. I didnt explain very well. I was never properly ill, it was viruses but the doctors found nothing wrong with me. It was fear and phobias and my behaviours got out of control really, in trying to protect myself, I wasnt fair to him ata all. So I honestly, hand on heart think I put him through too much. Its not that he walked out when I got sick, not at all, its way more complicated.

Hey Mish, GFI.. I really dont think he would agree! Not whilst he is still with her, sadly.

Hey Naej, thanks for that.. I read somehting similiar the day before and nearly posted it, about soulmates. I feel I have shown I am 'ok' about him doing what he has to do, I havent been vengeful of Helen, as I said, more upset that he just wont see me, but yes, I know this is something HE had to do.

Hey Cyrena, thanks again for your wise words!! You made me feel better reading that. I can see you are right.. he is still so lost and interesting perspective that he is enjoying being the victim trapped in a cr*p R with Helen. I dont really understand why he has stayed with her for so long! Cher told me his desk is now next to hers though!! Therefore, still no email from him, but then, I have had such a busy weekend.

Thanks for saying its not my fault and that they rememebr the girl they fell in love with when they come out of this and not the end of the R.. I had an experience today which makes me think you are very right !!