Well thanks again people for your listening and caring...
MIL went in for tests today, not heard anything from anyone yet, so will have to wait and see.
SO2, avoidant is an understatement. Reading between the lines, I feel now like I have felt all along, that my W wanted to 'test the waters' of being single again and see what life was like on the other side. Problem for her is, she is now stuck over there with no way back. What I do MUST be affecting her or she wouldn't be snooping. I strongly suspect that her 'friend' that she was so fervently texting has now drifted away and she only has BFF left. Well, they cooked this little pot together, so they can drink out of it for the rest of their lives. Idiots.
Some people don't realise what they had until they lose it, then they want it back. I am not saying that my W wants me back (she is too stubborn to admit it anyway) but there is certainly an element of 'what is he doing now, has he got someone else, what about me?' in her actions. Don't know about the words as I don't hear from her.
My life though, is pretty peachy. I am happier than I have been for many years and so totally at ease with who I am and what I want that I feel relaxed. I just need to sort out the finances now, but I am onlny one step away from the rest of the world in being almost bankrupt, so that is not a great worry either. Or at least I won't let it affect me too much.
I will try to get onto all your threads soon and make a comment or 6. Bear with me, this RL is getting in the way! :P
