Here is one part of an email that Mr. DQ sent me today.....I get them nearly every day....
"You knock my socks off. I really never thought that a relationship could be like this. I feel your love for me constantly burning down my "walls" and bathing my heart in your fiery warmth and beauty… Gosh, you literally incapacitate my body and mind!"
It went on more than that, but you get the gist. I'm just sharing this because when Lucky brought it up yesterday, saying she suddenly realized she hadn't sent her hubby any racy texts lately so she hopped right to it....it made me feel very blessed and lucky that my man sends me this kind of thing nearly every day.
I also send him similar things, written specifically around the ideas that I know he will appreciate and understand.
He and I don't always get it right, but in some ways, we really do have it figured out.
ANYONE can do this and have this....it takes constant effort! But the effort should be a joy! It is never a drag or a bore to me to tell him how much I love him.
Now granted, its harder if only one person is doing the effort....but given time, the other partner will usually follow suit to some extent.
In the case of Mr. and Mrs. Bagheera....I actually think maybe Mrs. Bagheera will continue to come along....but I think maybe Mr. Bagheera will have to basically demand it.
And what is wrong with that?
Mr. DQ and I demand quite a high level of admiration, respect, faithfulness, and attention from each other. We also demand honesty and authentic behavior. So if I just "wasn't feeling it" for him, I would be forced to be authentic about that....and from there we could try to see if this was a fatal problem or just a temporary one.
That is why I said yesterday that I am glad at least for Mrs. Baggy to be able to authentically share her truth with Mr. Baggy. And I think its now up to him to tell her, authentically, that he requires her to step up to the plate and GIVE HIM what he needs. From there, she can decide to try harder or take her ball and bat and leave the field...but its only after an authentic break through that people can make these choices.
I'm just rambling....
But hopefully what I'm saying is obvious.
DON'T SETTLE FOR LESS THAN ALL YOU DESERVE AND WANT.
