Mother's Day Disaster

[ACJ]

How many expletives can you fit in one sentence? I aks b/c right now I need them all (and more)

Last night D13 stayed with H. She wasn't sure how long she was staying so when I was leaving work tonight I called to find out what she was doing. I almost wish I hadn't.

She said she was staying at Hs until Sunday and when I queried why so long she just said 'Haven't you seen the calendar I left on the kitchen cupboard? Dad has put it together' I explained I wasn't home yet and she told me H had written a calendar for the rest of the year stating when she will be with him and when she will be with me. Please note here that I have had NO input into this calendar whatsoever.

Needless to say I saw red. I asked to speak to him and told her that it was b/c I wasn't going to let him dictate to me when I could or couldn't see my own daughter and when I got time to myself.

She reluctantly put him on. He didn't see a problem with it telling me he had done what he had b/c last week i had said we had to share weekends. There was no discussion about her staying for a week at a time. I said 'You planned the whole year without consulting me' He said i can be flexible within reason!!!!!!!!!!!!!

To cut a very long story short I told him he could either agree to discuss it with me or he would get a letter from my L. He told me to send the letter. I pointed out that his L has not replied in any way shape or form to the last 6 mine has sent. At this point he handed me back to D13.

I feel so sorry for her b/c she is in the middle of all this but he is brainwashing her big time.

Now that I am home and have looked at this calendar I can see that he has gone out of his way to make sure she isn't home for my birthday, she isn't home for her birthday but interestingly he must be going away again in June b/c I miraculously have her for a week and a half at that point.

I feel like going round there and knocking on his door and refusing to leave until he talks to me. However, I think he would just end up calling the police saying I was causing a nuisance.

I know he has done this to force me to go to court. It is what he has wanted all along. I think it has been a long term game plan. I don't think he ever intended to go ahead with our agreement. I sent a TM to my L telling her I need to speak to her urgently in the morning but I really need someone to talk to right now as I feel like I'm gonna explode.