I can empathize with a lot of SP's pain, and what are obviously his very real feelings right now. He is perfectly justified in feeling the way he's feeling, and even acting the way he's acting.
I also know (and I think this is what Coach is trying to say) that feeling this way, and doing these things, won't "work."
I guess I believe there is a time for laying the first olive branch, and there is a time for self-protection. I still see SP in the need-for-self-protection stage, and I think at least SOME of what you're trying to get him to say/do right now would only be seen by his wife -- in her messed-up current state -- as appeasement and weakness, and she would just take advantage of it (at best), or hurt him further (at worst).
