On the one hand, she'll say something like "if I could take a pill," and on the other she'll get on the phone with her girlfriend 20 minutes later and talk about how excited she is to go to Upstate City and "spend a couple nights in the city" when the only reason to do that -- her girlfriends living in the suburbs -- is to see OM.
So? Are you in the best frame of mind right now, are your emotions on a even keel, do you have all the answers? Have you imagined that maybe she is hurting, confused, scared, and frazzled? Is this how she dreamed her M would turn out? The only reason she is going to take a trip is ....... Try not to think that way: only, never, always, totally, everytime. Do you really know why she is doing anything?
Quote:
She's (deliberately, I think) leaving her email and chat windows open on my computer where I can see the snippy and snide things she says to her friends. And she's trumpeting her status as a Role Model for a girlfriend who "totally should" follow her example as a WAW.
Stop mind-reading, if you want to know something ask. Can you imagine how she would feel if she saw all the snippy and snide things about all the pod people on here?!
Quote:
All of that is behavior associated with some other creature who closely resembles my (former) wife in many respects, though this one is also more fit, better-dressed, and recently had botox done.
No, that is your W. Not a creature but someone who deserves your love and respect.
Loving detachment, here's a start - you are responsible for your own happiness.
What Lucky said is spot on. You don't "see" your W. Look at your M as if it is in a fishbowl and you are looking in on it. Describe your actions, behaviour and dialogues with your W. Are you being the man you vowed to be?
You can handle it. Cheers Coach
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
