I've moved here from MLC

[AJM]

Sounds like things are improving. A roller coaster and it sux, but improving just the same.

Can I make a suggestion? Take a look back and see how things have changed. I think you'll be surprised where you were vs. where you seem to be now.

I also think that keeping some of that distance is good, but be careful to not let your hurt get in the way. You two are dating in some respects and I think you are getting to know each other.

Keep in mind that your old marriage is dead. You are now working on a new relationship. To do that, you have to work on you, remember. You can't be the old you. He'll have to work on him. He can't be the old him any more. You two have new memories to make.

I'm encouraged to read this. I think you must be having all kinds of doubts, yet I have so much respect for how you are handling it on the outside. You're a very strong person and you're also very smart. You're just struggling for perspective which is incredibly hard to gain when you're this close and that hurt.

Hang in there and enjoy the time you have to yourself.

AJ