Hey Addie, I hear you about the time....soemtimes I feel I am doing fine and then hit a litttle speed bump. In this case i saw the speed bump...I didi not realize it was going to affect me. having said that the house issue sure does not help. i feel your pain about the down payment becasue that is also my sitch and it was substantial. At this point i just want my share of the monye and close the chapter...the book will always saty open (D8) but once the money is in my bank account and the divorce finalized things will be better....I think. Who knows, by then I may even be involved with another woman!