Today I'm meeting with the therapist again. We kind of discussed my life story the last time and she referred to that as barely grazing the iceberg.
My purpose now is to work with the therapist and everyone I have support from and start moving on from the M and focusing on the D.
I have a great deal of love for W... so much so that I find it difficult to take any action in the D that I know is going to hurt her feelings, even though she is basically making no effort to hold back her attacks on me and my character and threatening my having custody rights of D1.
However I'm not 'dependent' on that R, so I have been able to move on to GAL fairly quickly - especially when the 'shooting' started in the D war.
If she is suffering from BPD, I am probably an oddity in that I didn't form a co-dependent relationship with her. I always expressed unconditional love, but I also always expressed a desire to let her choose love for me - and if she chose differently I let her make that decision.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
