This is just my personal opinion, but if it bothers you to look at them, put them out of sight for a while. As for what your H thinks, maybe it will cause him to wonder. Be prepared with an answer if he should ask why you put them up. However, I would not tell him that it hurt to look at them b/c that shows you being "needy". I might even go as far as to say something like, "I decided it was time to make some changes." If he asks what that means, just don't answer him. I have learned that from my H. Just b/c you are asked a question does not mean you have to answer it. It "may" appear to be rude, as I have always thought it to be, but in DBing, that is the best way to handle some subjects. Your H can make out of it whatever he choses and it may even cause a tiny bit of mystery by giving that type of answer. I don't see too many wedding pitures out after a couple has been married a while, anyway.
In fact, you may want to make some other changes in the bedroom to give it a different look. So, when or if your H should ask about any of it.....the same answer would hold......"time for changes to be made". Not knowing him, I certainly don't know if he would or wouldn't, but a lot of men would not even notice!
Do what makes you feel better. You might want to re-arrange furniture or buy some throw pillow or new curtains to spruce the entire house up a bit. Just enough to give it a different look. It doesn't take a lot of money to get a few different things to make us feel better. Changing things around on the walls makes the rooms look different. I bought new lamp shades and it gave my room a completely different look.
It is important to think about you and to focus on "you".....not him. That is not being selfish, even though it may sound like it is. It is survival and it is self-improvement. You can't improved yourself when you are always wondering what "he" is going to think or what type message you are sending him. For now, think about you and how you can pick yourself up.
Take care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
