My wife has asked me to take the children home on Good Friday while she is house-sitting. I am suspicious shw wants me to do this as she says her girl friend is staying with her overnight. This may well be true but I do not want to ask her friend as it obviously get back to her and this is back to me pursuing. I have been asked to have a meal on the same night with my friends which means the children would have to stay with my wife on the Friday night. When I told my wife this she said "Oh, that is typical of you, you do not see the children for a week and then you want to go off for a meal with friends....typical...selfish as usual". This is one thing that has been a problem in our marriage and if I did go off for a meal it would be construed as more of the same.

I know I should stop thinking of what my wife thinks and do what is best for me and the children, but on the other hand I either please myself and go for a meal (selfish), or take the children home with me (pandering, non-assertive), but would be seen as a 180. Also, if I did take the children it would allow her to have the house to herself and her 'girlfriend'.

On another situation she also now wants to take turns sleeping in the marital bed, every two nights is the suggestion.
What is the best thing to do?

Last edited by markhaving probs; 03/31/09 08:29 AM.
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08
Me:48
WAW:41
D:10
S:6
Married: 15 years