I'm giving her nothing. Not being a dikk. I'm friendly, but I wait for her to greet me first and I usually wait for her to tell me goodbye.
This would be a huge change, and if you're doing this, I'm glad. For YOUR sake. But frankly, I'm skeptical, because we've NEVER seen this from you.
I know this is incredibly hard, trying to figure out what "role" you want this woman to play in the rest of your life, when the ONLY role you ever saw was wife, partner and lover.
