I've told her it doesn't have to be miserable. Repeatedly, especially in my pre-DB post-bomb phase.
At MC -- all of this is in my now-famously deleted thread -- when C asked what our goals were, WAW said D and I said "a second marriage -- that just happens to have the same 2 people in it."
I've made the case for renewal, regeneration, and the Third Way between misery-in-marriage and misery-in-divorce.
Per script, it falleth on deafeth eareth, saith the Bard of the Boards.
