Moved out to apartment, WAW moved back to house

[MrNiceGuy]

At the time, I was trying to flip things around on her by proposing that I got an apartment instead of her. She took me up on it and said I was 'taking the high road'. I can convince myself that now that part of me didn't want her out there in an apartment where she could easily carry on her A without consequence; or that it would be safer for me (as a man) to locate an apartment or roommate situation; or that since I was partially to blame by getting stuck in my stay-at-home rut that it would be good for me as well.

I tried the flip again later by asking for a divorce when I realized that she was rather controlling in our marriage and that I had lost my assertiveness - routinely submitting to her opinion and choices for travel, house, food, etc. This, of course, she blames on me, too - being 'controlling' for the same reasons. Go figure.

Anyway, the recent news I've heard is that she has booked a vacation this summer with her boyfriend, but apparently her BF is still living with his ex-fiance. HAH!

Today, I cleared out my home office in a near final stage of moving out of the house. I still own things there, of course, but my specific presence is now gone.

The crazier sh*t she seems to pull the easier it gets for me to distance myself.

While the R with the OM may fall apart someday, she appears to have created this fantasy expectation of what it will be like once they are finally able to be together. Sounds to me like a recipe for disaster, especially since I'm getting a life now and getting better at it with each passing week.

Not sure if there is a way to accelerate the SCRIPT of a WAS attempting, or waiting for, an EA to come to fruition, but it would make an interesting lust novel to write. :-)