Walk Away German Wife (WAGW)

[PortlandDad]

It sounds like she's backed herself into a corner. Have you spoken with her parents yet?

Oh yes. I'm on very good terms with my ILs. Neither of them agree with what she is doing, which is why she lives alone now instead of with them.

Unfortunately their health is failing and they have another D who is going through marital problems right now. My MIL has basically just thrown up her hands and said that, as much as she wants to change the situation, she can't because my W doesn't listen to her any more.

I do get a lot of good information about what my W is doing from my MIL, but she is no longer actively campaigning for us to get back together. I think she sees that my W is stubborn and continuing to press her on a reconciliation was only entrenching her in her decision to remain separated.

I also found out today that her surgery was going to cost $9000 dollars, and that is why she canceled it.

Well, by my math... $600 for a plane ticket, $50 for a co-pay, $50 for meds after the fact... a few weeks of being pampered by her kids and family...

*Sigh* I know, don't expect rationality from the irrational.