Sir -- sadly I think if you open your eyes you'll find OM in the mix. Your WW will deny, but all the psycho-babble she's directed at you indicates something not good is going on. Take care of yourself, guard your finances like a junk yard dog, and avoid becoming her doormat. Best of luck.
BS (me) 57 WW (her) 51 M - 27+ years Sons - 34/21 daugh - 32/26 D-day - (A#1 Apr 98) (A#2 Oct 08) Status - minimal contact (me) living with OM (her) Divorce - Scheduled for Apr 09