Ok, I'll be honest, DCBH. I hope you don't get offended, and maybe its bcause I have never been in a custody battle or divorce, but all the taping and spying sounds insane to me. IMHO, unless you are just working toward a divorce and no chance of reconcilation or even better communication with you W as coparents, I'm not sure what your goal of all this will be divorce wise. I mean I can understand having to prove infidility in court so the PI has done that for you. And she has already admitted to the A. So why the continued spying? It is helping to make you feel better? Is it helping you to move on or to possibly reconcile? Is it going to stop the A?
Again, please don't be offended and by all means I am not great at the DB thing at all if you check my thread out. But from the outside looking in, I think you need to stop spying and do the things you said at the end of your last post -- make preparations for your daughter. Just my opinion and hope you don't mine me sharing it.
