Also important to let go of needing her to be there. If she threatens to not go just say "okay, it's your choice".
She has tried to use it as a bargaining chip, take that chip away from her by not needing her to be there.
Spellfire aka Mike
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A
