Baggy - I just want to offer support and tell you, that I (and I suspect EVERYONE here on the SSM board) DO UNDERSTAND what it means to want her to WANT YOU. You want to feel desired, you want to feel that your partner wants to ravage you, you want to feel her lust for you steaming off her skin, you want to see that look in her eye that says "I'm going to eat you alive", you want to be seduced, you want her to chase now and then, you want her to tell you unabashedly the naughty things she plans to do to your body later....I think this is the one area where a truly LD person will always struggle. They can't really understand the HD person's desire to have this, as they actually don't want that kind of attention on a regular basis. They feel uncomfortable with it.
But anyway...just wanted to back you up 100% and tell you that, no matter what happens with your sitch, you are normal and are asking for a very NORMAL thing when you say you want to feel wanted by her. You aren't just sex starved to want this from her. You will still want it even if the frequency of sex goes way up. You will still want it if you changed life partners. You will still want it if you were single again (ie: you'd want to watch for strangers sending you sexual clues that they want in your pants). It is a part of some of our sex lives, so inter-twined, as to be literally inseparable.
I'm addicted to sexual attention. I need it and crave it, even if it doesn't lead to sex. Without that attention from my man, I would lose interest in him quickly, and would quickly be seeking the attention elsewhere. I know that's not really the "right" thing to do....but at least I am honest with myself on what I need. So far, all signs indicate that he will not take that attention away from me, so I feel I can move forward with the relationship and get married. If I had even the slightest hint that the attention might dry up, I would back waaaay off and would ultimately have to decide how to proceed, if at all.
So I'm just sayin'....I hear ya, and I would be in a quandary just as you are. Its hard to be true to yourself, when that might mean not being true to your marriage. Yet ... how can we really be true to someone else if we are not true to ourselves?
You deserve to be chased and lusted after Baggy, in case anyone hasn't said that to you lately.
I'd chase ya myself, were we single people...haven't even seen a pic of you but I know enough about your spirit to know I'd chase ya! :0)
