What I'm suggesting here is... Rather than ask if it is fair to ask her to change her LD if you don't want to/can't change your HD... Instead, focus on changing your mindset and approach to her to see if that might be a catalyst to change her level of desire.
That's been the story for the past several months, and it -has- yielded some positive results. This weekend's news felt like a row of F's on a report card that I expected to get A's and B's on -- it's knocked me into the dirt, from which I need to get back and up and dust off.
Originally Posted By: LuckyGirl
I mean no disrespect....so if this is not helpful and frustrating to read from a newbie... Like a PhD listening to advice from a toddler... please excuse me.
Lucky, hon: feel free to make suggestions or even jerk a knot in my smartass tail whenever you like. My Ph.D. is in Planetary Science, a field in which the participants are generally so career-driven, that then tend to have notoriously BAD marriages...one after another. I'm one of the toddlers on this board.
-- B.
Me 50, W 45, M for 26 yrs S25, D23, S13, S10 20+ year SSM; recovery began Oct 2007
