I think people need to realize that when people say things to you like, "I don't love you anymore" or "I'm not in love with you anymore", or anything else that's remotely close, consider this, they've lost respect for you, they've lost attraction for you, probably due to some poor behaviors on your part, not just on theirs. Acting like a doormat is really crap behavior, I did that - not her and acting like a doormat ends up getting you as much love as a doormat deserves, which is none. I stopped acting like a doormat, I set rules & boundaries, I man up, act like I have a pair and you know what, it's not acting, I do have a pair, I have reclaimed those shriveled raisins that I call balls out of her purse and they've regained their normal size once again - thank god!
Respect yourself, love yourself, find those things that make you an individual again, make you feel good about yourself again and remember that you aren't allowed to lose those things regardless of how much you love your partners. Don't ever settle for being someone's doormat because after you've been walk on for a while and they've rubbed their dirty shoes all over you, they will get rid of you, doormats that look old & dirty get replaced with newer doormats.
Goal: Stop being a human doormat
How to achieve this goal: love & respect yourself enough to tell people that you don't like it when they treat you like crap. We teach young kids to say NO when someone does something inappropriate to them - there's a message there. Learn to say NO to crap behavior, you don't have to be a bully, you don't have to be mean but you do have to say something and stand up for yourself. Doing so shows people that you respect yourself enough to not tolerate crap behavior.
