WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 6

[confusedinpa]

I'm also struggling with what to do about the counseling session tonite.

I know many people don't think it's helping the relationship at all. I'm not sure if I could argue that it's helping, but is it hurting?

It always starts by the counselor asking us how it's going. My wife always differs to me to go first. I'm tempted to go one of 3 routes.

1 - If my wife differs, politely say, it seems like I always go first and wind up monopolozing the session with what I have to say. Is there anything that you would like to talk about?

2 - Talk about how she is moving out in under three weeks and ask how do we work on our marriage. I would suspect that my counselor will as my wife is she is willing to work on the marriage and take it from there.

3 - Recognize what my wife had said over the weekend how she still feels hurt when she sees me and what can we do to help heal?

Any thoughts?