Thank you for your post and your suggestion of what to write. I will think about it.
Hi Snodderly,
Thank you for your post, you were spot on with it. I did send him a "Thank You" note since it was around our wedding anniversary. I meant what I wrote in it but was expecting a negative reply.
Bingo – XH's prompt reaction was what I expected. He wrote back that words don't cost anything. If I have any feelings for XH I won't take the money. Only then he will believe what I wrote in the note!!! - You and I already knew that he was only after the money. I will surely not give in and am going dim.
I know from the past that H is trying to manipulate me. I will never forget when he lived with OW he once said to a mutual friend that he can make me believe things since he can write so well.
I am a bit surprised at myself that XH's words did not hurt me as much anymore as they used to, but I guess it helped that I was expecting his reaction.
I will not contact him for a while but since I still need a few things to be sorted out I cannot go dark yet.
On Wednesday I will meet "the hiker" again. As you said before it is quite nice to have no ties with him but I am not sure if he wants to be "just friends" with me.
We changed to summer time on the week-end and the days are getting longer. I am looking forward to spring and summer.
Thank you again for your so appreciated comments, and I wish you a good week.
