WAW/Affair Confirmed - Advice? #2

[DCBHM]

I've been doing some soul-searching. W has basically been "twisting the knife" so-to-speak by flaunting her A in my face, knowing that her mother is impotent to stop it from happening - despite the fact that m.i.l. pays for W's cell phone, car insurance, food, shelter, etc.

This A is going to continue as long as I'm the 'fuel' for that fire. Even when I don't want to be - when I showed signs of going out, GAL, taking my daughter elsewhere and making clear I wasn't going to follow W's plan - she blatantly threw it in the open and said "Here I am - now you have to come back home to drop D1 off."

Yesterday she just walked into my home, made herself at home, saw all my 'spy' equipment set up at the window in terms of computer, cameras, etc. and then walked out after going through drawers, belongings, etc.

She doesn't live here any more - so that was bothersome. But I just kept my cool, and my attorney said she is probably trying to get me to react in some way so that she can call the police to get something to use against me.

I do record all of our interactions, so I'm being as cautious as possible, but I'm concerned that she was flaunting the A and OM to incite me to react in some way.

Probably bothers her more that I didn't even mention anything, just clicked 'record' on my camera.

But she is being pretty hostile when I'm not following 'her' plan, and I go off and do what 'I' choose to do that she has no control over. I think I threw off a real 'vibe' that I was moving on, because I told her I wouldn't need her to pack diaper bags any more because I had my own, and I had everything D1 needed with me, and I was doing just fine. Going to buy my own car seat now and send the message that I'm not going to rely on her for anything outside of passing her to me to leave during custody swaps - which will also prevent her from having to come in my house.

Which might be a necessity when I drop my second evidence bomb soon.