Bagheera understands very well that he has to lead his marriage. That doesn't mean his wife is passive, or that he does all the work. But it does mean he sets the tone and structure of the marriage, within which his wife can safely express her own sexual self.
The masculine does not wait around for approval, it just gets on with things, pushing relentlessly through time, making the very best of what nature has given him, and accepting and being grateful for the problems challenges that life continually throws his way.
A man that understands this and lives it, and does not recoil or lean on others, will have within him the "presence" Bagheera refers to. Because he accepts what a man's life is about, and is therefore fully "present" in it.
