I see that you live in Michigan, and that you said: "In a really strange twist of fate, our counselor (picked from an internet site) ended up being one of the 4 DB'ing phone coaches."
I live in Bloomfield Hills, which is about 20 miles from Detroit. Last week my wife and I started marriage counseling, and thus far like the therapist.
But I was wondering: What is the name of your marriage counselor, and in what city does she practice?